What you say does make sense Chrissy, but speaking as one whose gone through it with our own teens/young adults, I just cant let any and everything come through our door even in the form of a book. For the type of stuff I have seen in the bookstore, if it were on cable, it would be on an adult channel. I'm not talking about teen angst and exploration, but hard core porn. A person can go to jail for giving a minor pornographic material be it literature or video. I would have to ask myself, if this were a VIDEO, would I allow my minor children to view it? No for a few reasons, its morally wrong, its damaging to the child and its illegal. Once these things are in our minds, they stay there. I know, I've watched and read the material as a young adult and the visuals would pop up and it was disturbing. They may find it somewhere else but that doesnt mean I have to hand it to them gift wrapped.
I asked my liberal 19 year old daughter what she thought on the subject (she's married and is having her second child) her opinions, if she would monitor her sons reading and such and she was empathetic in her answer, YES! Now this same daughter wanted tattoos and piercing at 16 but it wasnt allowed. She got them but it was AFTER she left the confines of her family home, to live on her own. She knew how we felt but had respect enough to wait til she was in her own establishment. Its her tat and piercing and its her body but until said body had a home of its own, she had been raised to respect the rules of the house.