Frankie reads 2013

[frankie]

 

 

Unfortunately, lots of crap has to happen to pound that sense in, so I recommend learn by watching, not screwing up.  If only! /sigh/

 

Don't worry, I've had a good share of crap come my way in the past... Feeling rather out of place and 'wtf' at the moment about life now, as well... I'm getting there! Little by little...

 

Edit: the only way to move forward is to have a wicked, quirky sense of humour, and bloody darling friends <3 <3

Edited December 3, 2013 by frankie

[pontalba]

Don't worry, I've had a good share of crap come my way in the past... Feeling rather out of place and 'wtf' at the moment about life now, as well... I'm getting there! Little by little...

 

Edit: the only way to move forward is to have a wicked, quirky sense of humour, and bloody darling friends <3 <3

Yup, laughing makes better wrinkles/lines.

[frankie]

Yup, laughing makes better wrinkles/lines.

 

Exactly  

 

Look at all the people who are having botox all over their face in order to have no wrinkles... I say the more wrinkles you have, the more you've laughed and lived

[Kylie]

I was going through old pictures of myself and friends last night.. And I thought wow, I've been young and happy, haven't I... I've been dreading my upcoming Bday for a long time, thinking turning 33 is horrid, but then I do the math again and think 'oh yeahhh, I'm only going to turn 32, I'm only 31 now...' And somehow it's easier.

 

Before I got to the second half of this, I was like 'What? I'm sure Frankie's only turning 32! Has she forgotten how old she is?'   

 

I had the same thing happen with my Mum the other day. We were talking on the phone and I casually mentioned my age as 32 and Mum didn't even say anything. It was only after we had both hung up that we remembered I'm 'only' 31. Haha. We decided that I must have been rounding up my age to the nearest birthday. 

[Karsa Orlong]

The cops went in and found the perp in the toilet...

 

He must have been really desperate for a pee

[Athena]

Remember how I told you guys someone had broken and entered into my home town's library? Well, I went for a coffee with a Joensuu friend today, and he happens to be a guard, and he had some inside info! The same security firm my friend works for has guards in my home town, and it was one of his guard buddies who came to the scene, noticed the broken window and called the cops. The cops went in and found the perp in the toilet... But either the guard didn't say or didn't know why he was there. But apparently he was an 'old friend' of the cops. But that's all my friend knew about it Particularly peculiar? Oh I would think so!

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That's interesting!

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And the new bookstore... Well, Mum and I went for a peep last Thursday. It was quaint, but rather small... But I guess I should've figured it wasn't going to be anything big. The paper and office supplies and calendars and cards section was as big as the books section, and so there weren't all that many books, which was kind of disappointing... I feel awful saying that. I know that there probably just isn't enough business in my home town to have a bigger store with more books. All the books on the general shelves were hardbacks, there was only one shelf that was dedicated to paperbacks.

 

The great thing about it was that there was a shelf for used books! That was a nice surprise. I'd thought earlier that I might ask if the owner had thought about it, but she'd beat me to it I think I shall take used and read books to her in the future if I have any...

 

I personally prefer paperbacks and I try to read as much as possible in English, so there wasn't really anything for me, but Mum and I both bought calenders.

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Sorry to hear it wasn't as big as you had hoped it would be. The shelf for used books sounds nice .

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I applied for a council flat in Lahti last Saturday. Keep your fingers crossed that I will hear from them soon and will get to move to Lahti soon enough!

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I hope you get it!! It sounds really exciting .

[frankie]

Before I got to the second half of this, I was like 'What? I'm sure Frankie's only turning 32! Has she forgotten how old she is?'   

 

I liked that, until I read 'has she forgotten how old she is'. You mean how YOUNG I am, right?!

 

 

 

I had the same thing happen with my Mum the other day. We were talking on the phone and I casually mentioned my age as 32 and Mum didn't even say anything. It was only after we had both hung up that we remembered I'm 'only' 31. Haha. We decided that I must have been rounding up my age to the nearest birthday. 

 

Maybe it's a phase all 31'ers go through Oh yay, we are part of something!   How old is Rory now. Hm. I bet she had the same thing!

 

He must have been really desperate for a pee

 

Have you not heard of yellow snow? Nah, of course not, you guys don't have snow in the UK...

 

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Sorry to hear it wasn't as big as you had hoped it would be. The shelf for used books sounds nice .

 

It was my fault, my expectations were too high and I was being an eager beaver

 

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I hope you get it!! It sounds really exciting .

 

Thanks!!

 

[poppyshake]

It's nice to find out that you're younger than you think .. I don't know when I last did that .. I often do the reverse and end up disappointed  This is almost like the year that didn't exist so you can do what you want with it .. possibly get a penguin or learn to walk on stilts  

 

I wonder why the man broke into the library to use the loo?  .. it's very particular isn't it? .. possibly he's fussy about how he dries his hands  I went into the men's loo by mistake this week in my local supermarket  I've used the loo there before so why I got it wrong I don't know. I didn't want to use the loo I wanted the mirror and the good lighting (to check my eye for the lens) but firstly I was baffled because I'd seen a lady go in but she wasn't there and then the smell indicated to me that something was wrong  .. this was all after I'd had a good look in the mirror  I am just so lucky that no-one was in there or came in as I was hastily leaving    but I have to say .. it wouldn't be the first time     

 

I guess the little bookshop had a lot to live up to .. you had built your ideal one in your head   I hope they have a good doggy selection  I always think it's annoying when a shop devotes too much space to things that AREN'T BOOKS!!! But then I don't mind at all if the things are book related and like you say, they have to cater for non-readers (why though? ... just point them to the nearest video store )

It's great that she has a shelf for used books .. no doubt you'll get some interesting titles turning up there and it will be a good place to take your unwanted books. I'm sure you will be on first name terms before too long.

 

Keeping my fingers crossed for that flat in Lahti xx It's just what you need   

[Athena]

I wonder why the man broke into the library to use the loo?  .. it's very particular isn't it? .. possibly he's fussy about how he dries his hands  I went into the men's loo by mistake this week in my local supermarket  I've used the loo there before so why I got it wrong I don't know. I didn't want to use the loo I wanted the mirror and the good lighting (to check my eye for the lens) but firstly I was baffled because I'd seen a lady go in but she wasn't there and then the smell indicated to me that something was wrong  .. this was all after I'd had a good look in the mirror  I am just so lucky that no-one was in there or came in as I was hastily leaving    but I have to say .. it wouldn't be the first time     

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Oopsie! I've done this too, on multiple occasions . I can imagine your embarrasment!

[Marie H]

I don't like the sound of that kind of maturity....

oh, you will love maturity, but you have decades to go before that,you young whippersnapper!   or if you don't love it, at least accept it gracefully  .

[Marie H]

Edit: the only way to move forward is to have a wicked, quirky sense of humour, and bloody darling friends <3 <3

I think that having a good sense of humour is absolutely essential, especially if it is wicked and quirky. I've always known that when things get tough, it is a great help to have a quirky sense of humour. And not to be too serious about yourself. As I have just read all these wonderful and hilarious posts from Kylie,poppyshakes and pontalba,they are perfect examples   .oh dear, I laughed so much that I was literally crying with laughter.Thank goodness that waterproof mascara really does work. 

[pontalba]

Exactly

 

Look at all the people who are having botox all over their face in order to have no wrinkles... I say the more wrinkles you have, the more you've laughed and lived

 

Oh, God, you are not kidding!  Laughed, lived and loved.

 

 

Before I got to the second half of this, I was like 'What? I'm sure Frankie's only turning 32! Has she forgotten how old she is?'   

 

I had the same thing happen with my Mum the other day. We were talking on the phone and I casually mentioned my age as 32 and Mum didn't even say anything. It was only after we had both hung up that we remembered I'm 'only' 31. Haha. We decided that I must have been rounding up my age to the nearest birthday. 

 

   Love it!

 

 

I think that having a good sense of humour is absolutely essential, especially if it is wicked and quirky. I've always known that when things get tough, it is a great help to have a quirky sense of humour. And not to be too serious about yourself. As I have just read all these wonderful and hilarious posts from Kylie,poppyshakes and pontalba,they are perfect examples   .oh dear, I laughed so much that I was literally crying with laughter.Thank goodness that waterproof mascara really does work. 

 

And.....never trust a man that is completely without a sense of humor!

[Timstar]

Hope you can find some good books at the new store! Remember not to take too many of your own books there otherwise their shelf starts looking like your old one

[Marie H]

And.....never trust a man that is completely without a sense of humor!

That is so true   . If you find a man who thinks that women shouldn't have senses of humour, and women should only laugh at his jokes, RUN LIKE HELL!!

[frankie]

It's nice to find out that you're younger than you think .. I don't know when I last did that .. I often do the reverse and end up disappointed  This is almost like the year that didn't exist so you can do what you want with it .. possibly get a penguin or learn to walk on stilts  

 

Yes! It is kinda like having this extra year all to myself... I will look into getting a penguin ASAP Stilts might be too much, with fear of heights... Or maybe this is the year to overcome my fears... Maybe I should learn to walk on stilts, and to swim... Well, there's snow on the ground, might be too slippery for stilts and the lake's soon frozen over, so there goes that idea... Phew  

 

I wonder why the man broke into the library to use the loo?  .. it's very particular isn't it? .. possibly he's fussy about how he dries his hands  

 

Or maybe... He's one of those men who can't go to the toilet without reading material! Maybe the guard left out that little detail... Or maybe when the man heard the cops coming, he pocketed the book, because he was too embarrassed to be found with a book... Maybe he has a reputation to think of, maybe his rogue friends would start cussing him if they found out he reads books.

 

I went into the men's loo by mistake this week in my local supermarket  I've used the loo there before so why I got it wrong I don't know. I didn't want to use the loo I wanted the mirror and the good lighting (to check my eye for the lens) but firstly I was baffled because I'd seen a lady go in but she wasn't there and then the smell indicated to me that something was wrong  .. this was all after I'd had a good look in the mirror  I am just so lucky that no-one was in there or came in as I was hastily leaving    but I have to say .. it wouldn't be the first time 

 

Oh... Yes, the smell, the infamous smell of male loos... But you can always say 'you know the lines to the ladies loos are terrible, it was quickier this way' and just walk away like you'd always meant to use the men's loo

 

I mean, it's not okay to cut in line to the ladies loo, but if there's no line to the gents, you can just go right ahead

 

I guess the little bookshop had a lot to live up to .. you had built your ideal one in your head   I hope they have a good doggy selection  I always think it's annoying when a shop devotes too much space to things that AREN'T BOOKS!!! But then I don't mind at all if the things are book related and like you say, they have to cater for non-readers (why though? ... just point them to the nearest video store )

 

Yes, I admit, it was my very own fault... I did like the books that were there, I think she had a great selection. I coveted quite a few titles... The Murakamis, and The Count of Monte Christo... And a few others. New books... New books in Nurmes!

 

And you know... There is no video store in Nurmes, so maybe that's why... Yes, it's a small town!

 

oh, you will love maturity, but you have decades to go before that,you young whippersnapper!   or if you don't love it, at least accept it gracefully  .

 

I just used the word 'whippersnapper' myself last week, for the first time ever, what a coinky dink

 

Nah, I know I joke around, but honestly I'm quite happy to be in my thirties. I wouldn't want to be in my 20s... I'm more comfortable being who I am these days. That's the best thing about 30s.

 

 

I think that having a good sense of humour is absolutely essential, especially if it is wicked and quirky. I've always known that when things get tough, it is a great help to have a quirky sense of humour. And not to be too serious about yourself. As I have just read all these wonderful and hilarious posts from Kylie,poppyshakes and pontalba,they are perfect examples   .oh dear, I laughed so much that I was literally crying with laughter.Thank goodness that waterproof mascara really does work. 

 

Agreed!

 

Oh, God, you are not kidding!  Laughed, lived and loved.

 

Ah yes, loved The three big ones

 

And.....never trust a man that is completely without a sense of humor!

 

This is so true... I don't think I could ever be with a man who doesn't make me laugh. A sense of humour is so vital! Great training against incontinence, too

 

Hope you can find some good books at the new store! Remember not to take too many of your own books there otherwise their shelf starts looking like your old one

 

That would be a mindbender... 'Where am I? Am I at home? Did I just jaunt??'

 

That is so true   . If you find a man who thinks that women shouldn't have senses of humour, and women should only laugh at his jokes, RUN LIKE HELL!!

 

Remember to joke around on his expense a little, first

[Marie H]

This is so true... I don't think I could ever be with a man who doesn't make me laugh. A sense of humour is so vital! Great training against incontinence, too

 

Remember to joke around on his expense a little, first

To me one the most important attractions of a man is his sense of humour   . There are a lot of other attractions  .

 

You have an incredibly sharp mind frankie, especially for wordplay, with the "joke around on his expense", is very witty. Especially as it in English.  You are so   !! When I first read that line, I thought it was "joke around on his expenses a little"    Hey, wouldn't it be wonderful for you to do both; to joke around on a guys expense and his expenses at the same time   .

[frankie]

To me one the most important attractions of a man is his sense of humour   . There are a lot of other attractions  .

 

Yeah. Like his books

 

Sense of humour, and love for dogs (and other animals, but dogs come first for this lady). Those two are deal breakers for me. I can give or take their reading books (I have to make allowances, right?).

 

You have an incredibly sharp mind frankie, especially for wordplay, with the "joke around on his expense", is very witty. Especially as it in English.  You are so   !! When I first read that line, I thought it was "joke around on his expenses a little"    Hey, wouldn't it be wonderful for you to do both; to joke around on a guys expense and his expenses at the same time   .

 

I suppose it would be kinda fun to joke around on his expenses...!

 

Coincidentally I just read this FB status feed some Finnish woman had written. She'd been asked out on a date, the man was going to pick her up, and they were going to go to a movie. She'd seen his picture before, so had her expectations, and she'd cleaned herself up real good to look nice.

 

So, the last minute, she gets a text from the man and he says he's having car trouble, could she possibly take the bus and meet him at the restaurant? She thinks okay, these things happen. When she gets there, the man looks different from his picture. It's obvious he's sent her an old photo. And during dinner, all he talks about is the current price of gas and how it's always going up. And shares chauvinistic jokes. So it's kinda obvious that it's not going well...

 

She's of the school of thought that whoever invites the other one for a dinner, should pay. Whether it be the man or the woman. Her date wants her to split the bill, though. (I'm undecided on this... I usually pay for my own, and if I'm asked out on a date, which is very rare, by the way, it's never dinner, but a coffee or something, and as it's something cheap as that, I might let the man pay if they are adamant about it...) And during dinner, he actually admits that he didn't have any trouble with the car, but he just couldn't afford the gas.

 

When they leave the restaurant and start to go their separate ways, the man runs up to her and asks if she has the 2,50 for the bus ride.

 

Oh, and I forgot to say that the man turned up in sweats.

 

I guess I've been reasonably lucky with my dates, so far...

Edited December 5, 2013 by frankie

[pontalba]

To me one the most important attractions of a man is his sense of humour   . There are a lot of other attractions  .

 

You have an incredibly sharp mind frankie, especially for wordplay, with the "joke around on his expense", is very witty. Especially as it in English.  You are so   !! When I first read that line, I thought it was "joke around on his expenses a little"    Hey, wouldn't it be wonderful for you to do both; to joke around on a guys expense and his expenses at the same time   .

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah. Like his books

 

Sense of humour, and love for dogs (and other animals, but dogs come first for this lady). Those two are deal breakers for me. I can give or take their reading books (I have to make allowances, right?).

 

 

I suppose it would be kinda fun to joke around on his expenses...!

 

Coincidentally I just read this FB status feed some Finnish woman had written. She'd been asked out on a date, the man was going to pick her up, and they were going to go to a movie. She'd seen his picture before, so had her expectations, and she'd cleaned herself up real good to look nice.

 

So, the last minute, she gets a text from the man and he says he's having car trouble, could she possibly take the bus and meet him at the restaurant? She thinks okay, these things happen. When she gets there, the man looks different from his picture. It's obvious he's sent her an old photo. And during dinner, all he talks about is the current price of gas and how it's always going up. And shares chauvinistic jokes. So it's kinda obvious that it's not going well...

 

She's of the school of thought that whoever invites the other one for a dinner, should pay. Whether it be the man or the woman. Her date wants her to split the bill, though. (I'm undecided on this... I usually pay for my own, and if I'm asked out on a date, which is very rare, by the way, it's never dinner, but a coffee or something, and as it's something cheap as that, I might let the man pay if they are adamant about it...) And during dinner, he actually admits that he didn't have any trouble with the car, but he just couldn't afford the gas.

 

When they leave the restaurant and start to go their separate ways, the man runs up to her and asks if she has the 2,50 for the bus ride.

 

Oh, and I forgot to say that the man turned up in sweats.

 

I guess I've been reasonably lucky with my dates, so far...

 

 

Years ago, someone I'd dated a few times wanted to marry me, but totally didn't understand anything about me, which was made obvious by something he said...he wanted to know if I'd keep allowing the dogs in the house.  What????????  I think at the time I had 4 dogs, and they had the run of the house, and actually slept with me.  I straightened him out, fast and sent him on his way.

 

I agree that the one that invites should pay, but I also am pretty much of the Old School (logical, 'cause I'm Old) /snicker/ that even if I'd invite a man out, he should at the least offer to pay.  Insist, more like it.  It shows a dedication, and shows that he is truly interested in getting to know you, IMO, and is willing to foot the bill.    His paying puts the woman at NO obligation for anything.  Of course the individuals financial status has some impact as well. 

If a man is not willing to pay for a date's dinner/whatever, I think that fact alone can forecast how he will act in a marriage.  People Do Not Change.  Their threads run through, truly.

Edited December 5, 2013 by pontalba

[frankie]

 

 

 

 

 

Years ago, someone I'd dated a few times wanted to marry me, but totally didn't understand anything about me, which was made obvious by something he said...he wanted to know if I'd keep allowing the dogs in the house.  What????????  I think at the time I had 4 dogs, and they had the run of the house, and actually slept with me.  I straightened him out, fast and sent him on his way.

 

First of all, he's only gone out with you a few times and already wants to marry you?? I mean, I understand, you are a gem, but ... Like you said, he didn't know anything important about you. 'Would you keep allowing the dogs in the house'...   They live in the house, so.. duh?! Of course?! Such stupidity, I can't help but laugh, sorry

 

His loss, but your gain

 

I agree that the one that invites should pay, but I also am pretty much of the Old School (logical, 'cause I'm Old) /snicker/ that even if I'd invite a man out, he should at the least offer to pay.  Insist, more like it.  It shows a dedication, and shows that he is truly interested in getting to know you, IMO, and is willing to foot the bill.    His paying puts the woman at NO obligation for anything.  Of course the individuals financial status has some impact as well. 

If a man is not willing to pay for a date's dinner/whatever, I think that fact alone can forecast how he will act in a marriage.  People Do Not Change.  Their threads run through, truly.

 

 

Hm... I agree, it's nice if a man offers to pay, but I think I would pay anyways. I think all in all I'd rather pay for myself, and the man to pay for himself. In all cases. If it lead somewhere, meaning, I would know more and more dates would follow, and was sure about it, I could sometimes say this date's on me, the next one you can handle if you like, and vice versa.

 

 

Edit: I really dislike a dinner date... Not that I've ever been on an actual one, although one date led to a dinner after coffee, but in general, I'm uncomfortable if I have to eat out with a stranger. I've only started learning how to be comfortable with friends at restaurants... (Long story, not interested in telling). I much prefer going out for a coffee or something else.

Edited December 5, 2013 by frankie

[pontalba]

On the plus side, going for coffee is long enough to tell a lot, and short enough if you don't like what you see. heh  You can always tell, in Starbucks, when a "couple" is on that sort of first date thingy.  I love watching people!

[frankie]

On the plus side, going for coffee is long enough to tell a lot, and short enough if you don't like what you see. heh  You can always tell, in Starbucks, when a "couple" is on that sort of first date thingy.  I love watching people!

 

I agree, getting a cup of coffee is good And, you will also be able to tell if the man drinks coffee or not... Coffee is good! (But I suppose I couldn't go ahead and discriminate against tea drinkers... )

[frankie]

#67

 

All American - Amerikkalaisuuksien sanakirja (a dictionary about American terms/words/phrases/idioms etc)

by Ilkka Rekiaro

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've already talked about this book on the forum. I got this as a present, and started reading it years ago but for some reason never finished.

 

I started reading this again, and it was really fascinating. Okay, I wasn't all that interested in all the different models of cars, but overall, there were so many interesting things to read about! I actually started writing things down, and putting post-its on all the interesting things.. Well, not real post-its, but the smaller ones, I don't know what they are called. But I used a lot of them... Good thing my boss told me I could keep the rest of the sticky note pad I'd used at the office this September... They came in handy with this book

 

For example, garbage disposals have always fascinated me. I've seen them in American TV shows so many times... And I've always wondered about them. Why do Americans have them? Is it a handy way to store bio garbage? But you have to take out the bag, or is there a bag in the first place? Where does it go

 

And for some really odd reason I've never come to think why us Finns don't have those. But it said in the book that those are not allowed in Finland. Interesting!

 

There were so many fascinating things... This book is a keeper. I know the same author has written a book on black vernacular, and now I'm semi interested in it... I know the book must be somewhat dated, though, because it was published quite a few years ago... I know this American dictionary was published back in 1997, but for some reason that didn't bother me. It was also a kind of a historical look on American things.

 

It would be interesting to see if I could find a British version of the book... Although I have to say, I've always been more interested in American English. It feels more my own. I  blame all the American TV series

 

5/5

 

Edit: I've just remembered my Lahti friend has a copy of the black vernacular dictionary... I'm sure she'll let me borrow her copy! Yay!

Edited December 5, 2013 by frankie

[pontalba]

Not everyone over here is actually allowed to have garbage disposals.  In my area, out in the country, I cannot have one.  I think it's because we have our own well and septic system.  I don't know what the legal restrictions are, but having a septic system is probably one of them.  It'd gum up the works somehow, I guess.

They're not for bio-garbage as far as I know.

 

A lot of people have compost areas.  Can't think what to call them....but they have an area, closed in, to put things that will degrade over time, they mix it up and eventually make great mud/dirt.  Very fertile. 

[frankie]

Not everyone over here is actually allowed to have garbage disposals.  In my area, out in the country, I cannot have one.  I think it's because we have our own well and septic system.  I don't know what the legal restrictions are, but having a septic system is probably one of them.  It'd gum up the works somehow, I guess.

They're not for bio-garbage as far as I know.

 

Oh, that's interesting! The book didn't say as much, but I got the idea that garbage disposals are nationwide in the US ...

 

And I've just realised how stupid I am   I should ask my Dad, he's a plumber, he might have some insight to this... I'm going to make a note of it, to remind myself to ask him

 

A lot of people have compost areas.  Can't think what to call them....but they have an area, closed in, to put things that will degrade over time, they mix it up and eventually make great mud/dirt.  Very fertile. 

 

Is this something where people will drive off to, to get rid of their bio-garbage? Or do you mean they have bio-garbage bins which are then emptied and taken out to that area?

 

I never knew garbage was so fascinating

 

Edit: so... If one would have a garbage disposal... where does the stuff go?

Edited December 5, 2013 by frankie

[pontalba]

It's ground up into teeny shredded bits and goes down the drain.

 

Some people have a trash compactor...that's what you're talking about I think, not a garbage disposal.  Different things.

The compactors have bags made to fit it, and something inside squishes it waaaaay down, supposed to save room at the dump, or in your garbage can, I suppose.

 

As far as the compost goes, lots of people have something like that in their yards, then when the "stuff" ripens and becomes dirt, it can be used for planting stuff.