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I'll be taking more stuff than donating, I'm sure They'll know me as the trashy lady I'm going to rent a van and I'm hoping to get some friends to help me. So far the ones I've asked are busy. I need someone who knows how to drive a van!! Might prove to be difficult...

That's one of the things we have in common: we do love our summers! We get all fired up what with the great weather and sun and warmth and people are generally in such a better mood! The winters can be a bitc... sonovagun! One needs lots of great books and hot choco and all sorts of pleasantries to make it through the winter... Ah, Netflix! Should've known I've never watched the show, but I know some who must have, and I know it's a popular show over here Me, I prefer watching Dexter So. Cal sounds So Calorific to me I can relate to you re: your siblings feeling cold I see people over here who are wearing jackets and scarves and hats already, and I'm like, it's still pretty warm! There's no need to act like it's cold... And then when it's winter and some people are wearing really thick coats, I'm still wearing my fall jacket It's so different from what I'm used to, being from further north. But I like it! Read-a-thons are cool, you should definitely join the next time there's one and you have the time! Tut tut, you need to organize your life around BCF so it doesn't get in the way That's great! Amazing prices, you're so lucky! I hope you find a lot of great stuff. And of course you need to post a list of your purchased books. If you include pictures, that's even better! Don't you just love it when your friends read books that you love yourself and have been recommending to them It's not very often that that happens, at least with my own real life friends. Thank goodness one has BCF friends!

Dating guru I sound like an urban, successful woman.. I won't have that crown! I tell you, when I lived in Joensuu, I was lucky if I could go on a date once in two years, or so. Moving to Espoo and going online has been crazy. It's not been successful, but it's been an experience! And it's made me more certain of what I want and need and what I don't want and don't need. The more I think about it, the more sure I am that I dodged a bullet. But... now that you said I shouldn't mention it on a date, I'm frightened of doing it, and thinking about being frightened makes me more frightened that it will just happen because I know I shouldn't do it! I've said worse things on a first date, though... I once quoted an IRC quote about raw diamonds coming out of one's ass, because I saw this beautiful bottle with a fake bottle diamond top (if that's what it's called), and I wondered if it had come out of someone's ass. And would you believe me, I got a second date Of course it went to rocks after that... But I promise, I've been very careful of what to say when I've been on dates in the south. I don't know what the southern people are like and what one can say so I've been good. Back in north Karelia, you could get away with a lot more! We are more relaxed... I'll be on the lookout for the neighbors There are a few dog parks near where I will live, so that's good! And Helsinki's amusement park is probably 500 meters away. Too bad it's the end of the season. Thanks peace! I'm going to be moving this Sunday, it was confirmed yesterday! Furnished apartments aren't the usual thing when renting an apartment but over here in Helsinki there seem to be more of those than in Joensuu. People go away for a year to study or work abroad and can't take all their stuff with them, but want to keep the apartment. I just went out to get cardboard boxes from the supermarket! They are ones that were used to deliver bananas. Those are very popular moving boxes over here You get them for free if you go and ask =) I had to make two trips, because I could only carry 4 at a time, but it was worth it, because I have loads of boxes now! Congratulations to your newly wed friend! :smiles2: Coincidentally my friend and his husband who are my landlord couple met via online dating They've been married for ... I think 8 years now? And have two kids. I was the maid of honor at their wedding I know loads of couples who've met online (not close friends but pals or acquaintances and friends' acquaintances), so I know that it can happen, for some I've forgotten to tell you guys before: when I went to see the apartment, the man showed me around the building as well, and showed me where I can store my bike and where to take the garbage. The garbage area was actually a closed area, it was like a room of its own, and there were many stacks of books there!! People who actually put the books there in case anyone wanted any of them, and they didn't throw them straight in the trash can! I liked it! The man told me he'd snatched a few copies for himself, once or twice!

I haven't read any of the books you've referred to, but I'm thinking She's Come Undone by Wally Lamb. Or The Pact by Jodi Picoult. The Secret History by Donna Tartt. I'm the King of the Castle by Susan Hill. This Boy's Life by Tobias Wolff. Beach by Alex Garland. Dinner by Herman Koch. If you're looking for thrillers or horror: Misery by Stephen King Green Mile by Stephen King Darkly Dreaming Dexter by Jeff Lindsay

Yep Although Doakes isn't all that tall to begin with. But muscles wise...

And that's your favorite kind! Now that would be something!

Hehe coincidentally I just finished the second episode :D Wow, Little Chino is no little man!!

Ooooh, her Chosen Career!! I hope you will like it. There will be things that I'm sure you will like. You'll know what they are when you read it And hurray for the Dexter novel You're on a Dexter roll I'm currently reading The Readers of Broken Wheel Recommended by Katarina Bivald.

Yeah, after I'd written the post I realized that the butterfly would make sense as it's flying around and stuff Okay, there are other uses of the word 'mieli', too, but I thought I'd start with the most obvious one. In Finnish, when we say something doesn't make any 'sense', we use the word 'mieli'. And 'mieli-' can also translate to 'favorite' when you're asking what is one's favorite book. Does that help or make sense...? Hurrah Very proud, me! Very happy that you liked the novel Write them hate mail. (Or constructive criticism... whatever... )

The credits are great. I remember when I saw them the first time and was completely fooled So clever! But nowadays, even though they are clever, I skip them every time because they are such LONG credits and I want to get to the actual episode!! Have you watched Six Feet Under? In my opinion, Michael C. Hall is really great, and he is the epitome of Dexter, perfectly cast! But oddly he's one of the actors/he plays one of the characters I don't have a crush on on the show (Although now that I think about it, I only fancy Doakes and Deb so that's not very slutty, is it... Only two! ) I love how Jennifer Carpenter plays Deb. I've said that before, but I'm not ever going to tire of tooting her horn She's such a master of doing the 'I'm trying to be tough but you can see how vulnerable I really am'. I loved the dancing scene in the Dade City episode, with Deb and a certain other Deb can dance!! Yeah, 12 episodes in a few hours! Yay, I'm glad you approve and now you can start, too!

What a great review of The Quantum Thief When you were describing how there were all these new and different words, I thought, well you are a pro at this, what with your placeholder system... But seemed there was a bit too much of it, perhaps. I was rather scared of reading all the way through the review... But thank goodness you liked it all the same Phew!! Also, 'mieli' is 'mind' in Finnish. Does knowing that make more sense? And 'perhonen' is 'butterfly' Edit: I'm sort of proud of Rajaniemi, for having been able to boggle your mind, even though you have read a lot of science fiction

Me, too. I wouldn't want any of my real life friends to come on here Is mine, mine!

It's a long and winding road... We Finns would say that it's an endless swamp. I.e., you can't get out Sigh... I like it that you're giving him a chance Who knows what will happen - you might end up as really good friends, and one can never have too many good friends. Or you might start falling for him It's not the worst situation you're in! I like how you handled that guy! These sort of people need to be put in their place! I was PMing with a guy this summer and he seemed keen to meet, but I wasn't all that eager... I had a few dates with other, more potential guys and this one didn't seem as potential. Anyhow, this one time I told him that okay, let's meet tomorrow, and we agreed to go for a coffee. The next day I waited to hear from him, but he didn't get online until very late in the evening and I asked what had happened. He said that he didn't know, he guessed he'd slept through most of the day ' '. I said okay... and deleted our PM thread and removed him from my friends. What a dick Re yesterday's date: I admit: because he seemed so arrogant in his message, I went and lied, sort of. I told him that no, I didn't feel any sparks either (which was true) and that I'm glad that we both agree on not wanting to take things further (which was the lie: I could've gone out with him again. But he doesn't need to know that!!). So that's that To get things back on topic, and point out the one good thing that came out of the date: we met at the library and I saw a copy of Herman Koch's latest novel in the 'bestseller' bookcase where the new books are placed, the ones that you can only borrow for two weeks and which you can't reserve. I'd reserved a copy of the book weeks ago, but now I could borrow the copy I came across by accident (I don't know if I'll manage to read it in time but at least I have the option.) Also, took a look at the book swap shelf and found a copy of the book that's been made into a costume drama series in the UK. Can't remember what the series is called... I think the book is titled Upstairs, Downstairs. Shouldn't really have grabbed it, because I shouldn't be acquiring any books at the moment... Edit: Did a little digging and found out that the book is actually a novelization. Who would've thunk, not me!

:lol: So weird that they wouldn't have all the seasons of a specific TV series I'm glad you were able to watch the whole series in the end, though. Awesome stuff I just watched the first episode of the second season of Dexter.

I loved the exact same thing!!!! I thought I should really write about it on the thread, but then I got lazy It was sooooo good!!! What do you guys think about Yay for binging and catching up! And thanks for waiting for me!! I'm just back from the library and now have the 2nd and 3rd season. And I'm dying to start. Can I start?!? Should I wait till you say yes?

A slow burner... That's exactly what it is. The first guy I really fell for and who also fell for me (in real life, many moons ago), said some years after our 'thing' that he hadn't fallen for me instantly and that (this was brutally honest of him to say and I didn't mind because I felt exactly the same way about him) he wouldn't have gone for me based on my looks, but once he got to know me... he was hooked I'm not completely happy about being a slow burner, because at the moment I don't meet new people on a regular basis, but I know there are some major silver linings to it in other respects. I know how beautiful women get a lot of attention from guys and how they can get some really creepy advances. I can imagine how tiring that will get. Me, I've never had that problem, which I'm pretty happy about. I remember when I was reading about your experience, I was thinking that that's what it was like for me, and I kind of wanted to tell you that it will get easier and that if you just go in with lesser expectations, you will find it a lot easier. But then I thought that it was too soon and maybe you didn't want to go on any further dates. And I didn't want to sound like I think I know everything and know how it's done and how it should be done. Because I don't know much about anything, really You'll be more savvy, I'm sure of it! And you've hit the nail: some people will expect there is an instant click. I think I've been expecting it myself, for a long time. However, I've been talking about this thing among other things with a certain very wise woman, and I've realized that the instant click just doesn't happen to everyone. And for that reason I've given a second chance to some guys, whom I thought I might start to click with in the long run. And this is why I'm kind of annoyed at the guy from yesterday, because I feel like he was looking for an instant click, and didn't get it, and then decided not to give me a second chance. He's new to the online dating scene, and I wanted to PM him to tell him that he's in for a rough ride if he expects an instant click. But then I thought, with some people you just know that there will never be any sort of clicking, ever, and I've met a few of those myself and have not wanted to go on a second date. So I must've been one of those girls for him And that's alright. (I got a PM from the guy yesterday and he said that I was an interesting person and he hasn't had the chance to talk about books on such a 'deep' level for a long time, but that he didn't feel the romantic spark. Which is fine. But what left me annoyed was how he ended it: "I don't know what you were thinking/feeling when we parted ways, but I hope you aren't incredibly disappointed!" [by him rejecting me] What nerve! The use of the word 'incredibly'. There was something in his profile which initially caught my attention, and it made me wonder if he's a bit arrogant, but I made allowances and thought that it's either his sense of humor, or him not having explained himself all that well in English. But now I'm starting to think that in the end, he was an arrogant barstard and I probably just dodged a bullet

Thanks Chrissy! The yeast infection analogy is one I came up with and i'm sticking to it You're 100% right about filling in the gaps in your own mind, when you aren't able to get the whole story as one would, were they on an actual date and so it would be easier to share the whole story. Writing is rather limiting. And you can't hear the person and see their initial reaction to the things you say etc etc. I try not to idealize the people I'm PMing with, but I think it just happens with everyone, subconsciously at least. That's why it's better to meet the other person very early on. I've been on enough dates via a dating website that I've learned not to take the dates too seriously. With the first two guys I met online, I was a bit too optimistic and then I got hurt because eventually I got the 'ax'. I'm keeping my guard up more these days. That's not to say I keep a massive facade and won't open up, but I'd rather prepare myself by thinking the guy's not going to contact me, than wish that he will, and then be disappointed. You also learn to read the signs when you've been on numerous dates. Yep, work and hobbies would be the best options, but unfortunately I'm unemployed at the moment and my hobbies are all solitary hobbies I don't meet new people that way. Which is why I've signed up with the dating website.

I'm sure he had a decent time because he did laugh and seemed to be enjoying himself, but it's just that I think I wasn't his cup of tea. But that's quite alright, one can't force these things. I'm just starting to think that this online dating thing isn't really for me, because I'm the sort of person one doesn't fall in love with at first sight, I'm the sort of person one has to get to know before they might actually start to warm up to me. I should meet men in completely different circumstances: at work or via hobbies. So I could cunningly grow on them, like a yeast infection But a yeast infection you are fond of and don't want to get rid of...

Welcome back, Brida!

I re-watched Jeff Who Lives at Home yesterday. It was amazing, yet again

I don't think we have a winner.... That was the quickest date I've been on! Felt like speed dating, but without the option of meeting multiple potential bachelors... We had coffee and talked, and he seemed nice and also funny, which is important to me. After 1,5 hours he said, rather abruptly, that he's ready to go, he's knackered (he's been on a holiday for the past two weeks and came back to Finland yesterday), and then we got up and left. When we were about to part ways, it all seemed rather awkward, and I said the usual 'it was nice to meet you', and then he said, 'one must ponder things, now...' and I took that to mean that he didn't enjoy the date or didn't find me suitable in some way or another, but he didn't feel like saying that to my face. And now it will be a case of him not contacting me again, or contacting me in a few days to say that he didn't think we had any chemistry. I had a good time, anyways. He was easy to talk to and he was funny, and it was really nice to talk about books! I don't know if I was exactly swooning over him right from the start, but that doesn't happen to me very often anyways, things usually 'escalate' with time, and I think he might've been one I could've come to really like. But I feel he didn't feel the same way. If he'd liked me, surely he would've asked for my phone number Oh well!

Thanks everyone! This year has been a real rollercoaster. A bit too much happening! One can't say life's been boring this year... It's a furnished apartment, so there will be a lot of stuff that doesn't belong to me, but I'm not bothered. For one, I left all my furniture behind when I moved to Espoo, and so I need everything there is Also, I like the owner's taste. He has some really quirky items there He seemed like a really nice guy so I of course want to keep the place really nice and respect all his things. I'm not much of a decorator myself, really... Have never been. I just need my books and my diaries, and the lovely bits and things that I've received from my family and friends 50 minutes to date... Need to eat. I hope I don't vomit. When I'm nervous, I have trouble eating. Thank goodness the date is obliging and he suggested we meet at the shopping mall next to where I live! So I don't have to go, for example, to his part of town, which I'm not familiar with at all. He'd be a right jerk to suggest something like that, innit?

I checked the second season and that too has 12 episodes, so I think it's fair to assume that so do the rest of the seasons. Better to know at this point! The next two seasons are on their way to me, so very happy about that!! There aren't many reservations for season 4, either, so should be able to get it easily when I need it, and I have the DVD set of season 5. After that it might become trickier as the later seasons have more reservations. I finished the first season yesterday, and I loved it So much better and more clever than I remembered. I've watched it twice before, but it hasn't gotten old or dated. There were things I didn't remember from the previous times I watched it Like,

The new Lapko album.

He knows... Well I didn't say it was for entertainment, I've just told him about my situation. He is a tall man who goes to the gym, so I'm wondering if I ought to ask him to help me move my stuff